Tomorrow starts the first official day of spring break 2025 but I will admit that it already feels good on this Sunday to not even think about having to get prepared for another week. Not physically, not mentally, like not at all. I always welcome any break, holiday, time off, etc. from work. I wish we had more days like this. Let’s not even talk about how we definitely shoul;d just have a four day work week be the standard but until then I am here. And I’m also a little bit conflicted because while I’m doing everything I ever wanted to do in becoming this entrepreneur and author there’s so much work behind that. It’s really not just create products, put up a website, and start selling. Or in the case of being a writer it’s not as simple as just write. So I really have a lot to do on both fronts to where I do want to use this break to revise and get ahead on somethings but at the same time like this is my break. I’m never going to get another week off until either I leave this job and don’t have a job anymore or I have to wait until some holiday or event near the end of this year. So my solution is to not just work and plug away at my businesses and things to the point where I don’t really give myself a break then regret it and go back to work still stressed, mad, whatever. I need this break, I need to work, I need balance. So I’ll find a way that feels good to me and do both.
I also love to use any time off from work to reflect on my life, and my current situation, along with my future trajectory. I’ve been saying it but I have 4 months left in this job. I’m thirty one. I’m ready to settle down. Now I’ve introduced this new element of being an author and entrepreneur and I don’t know what my future is really going to look like all the way. But one thing I've learned if nothing else is I need to know. I need a plan for what’s next otherwise I’ll just power through and survive whatever my current situation is only to get to the end but at what cost because I’m empty. I don’t want to be empty this time. There’s so many goals that I set and so many visions that I have for my life at this point I can’t let time get away from me. My new motto is I’m leaving here with something and hopefully that’s a successful business and thriving career and a better, more settled woman.
In the spirit of time off and self reflection recently I watched a Youtube video from author, writing coach, breathwork coach, etc. Alex Elle titled Leaning into Divine Alignment Trusting the Timing and Path of YOUR Life. And overall it just inspired me to really sit down and define for myself what “Divine alignment” means to me. I do think that alignment can be a buzzword in today’s social media climate but I want to truly understand what I am even meaning when I say it because I have been saying I want to be in alignment, this and that. And also I love clarity. I love having a vision and knowing what’s next and what to do and what’s going to/needs to happen, etc. I love knowing what the plan is and I always knew I needed a plan for my life and sometimes it’s easy to say all these fancy cute things but vision wise I want to be able to describe exactly what I see for myself and my life so there’s no way it won’t happen but also so that I can recognize it when it comes. So here goes, living in divine alignment for me in my life looks like:
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Having cereal, fruit, and yogurt for breakfast
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Waking up at 5am to go to the gym until 7am and seeing that 7am sunrise
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Not immediately waking up for the purpose of oh I have to get ready for work but instead waking up to do something I enjoy and that’s truly going to better me.
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Getting ready for my day in a big bathroom with semi loud music that I love and that’s based on whatever my mood is for that day whether that be 90’s R&B or my white people playlist, or rap
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Taking a thoughtful shower, doing my skincare routine, and hair without rushing
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Getting to enjoy being naked and looking at my body in the mirror, not always having to have clothes on
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Not having to travel for work in the mornings but having a home office I can just go to and get started. Also not having to travel home at the end of the day.
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Having as much time as I can throughout my day to do whatever I want.
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Only being around the people that I love and respect and that love and respect me
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Getting to spend more time with my own energy, feelings, thoughts, desires, etc. and exploring more of myself and who I am vs. who I want to be. Really giving that care and nurture to myself.
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Becoming more feminine and soft like I want to communicate better and walk more confidently and just overall feel more powerful in my own skin to where everything on the inside translates well to what’s on the outside.
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Experiencing true laughter and joy with people who are important and special to me and vice versa. Making those good memories with my people.
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Feeling valued and welcomed, supported, and loved genuinely and being able to have those authentic relationships where we can be honest and enjoy each other without holding anything back.
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Being able to love and receive love out loud.
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Having a sister hood with women who are on the same level of values and morals that I am on and something sacred to where I know they got me and I trust them.
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Being in a romantic relationship with someone who is kind, gentle, and patient with me and loves everything that I am and will be. Like someone who can love me through any stage of my growth or however I may change. Someone who makes me feel safe and chooses me everyday genuinely no matter what.
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Waking up in the morning and laying in my bed before I start my day with a sense of gratitude and excitement for what’s to come that day.
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Cozying into my bed at night and feeling warm, safe, comfortable, excited, and grateful with a sense of pride and accomplishment from whatever I did that day.
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Having my dream home, my forever home like I never have to move again if I don’t want to but I am safe and secure and protected by my place of peace. A space where I can grow, learn, nurture, create, love, rest freely.
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Being someone that the younger me would be proud of, being the person, the woman that that little girl needed. Being that for myself as well as other women and girls who need it, not just protection but pure love and light and support so that as much as possible no one ever has to go through what I went through but letting people know they have options. Helping people find and navigate those opportunities and options.
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Creating space for people to find themselves authentically at their core and define/decide who they want to be and what life they want to have. Then helping them create that life for themselves. Giving back in that way.
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Feeling freedom, ease, and security with the life that I have created for myself.
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Feeling confident, comfortable, and content in everything I have and everything I am.
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Making money and obtaining financial security in a way that feels fun, creative, purposeful, and authentic to me.
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Feeling like I’m beautiful, my life is beautiful. I’m grateful, and all is well.